remember when doctor who was awesome though

My name is not Blue but I think we can all be adults about this.
I keep most things here and some writing at andthereddestred. Because I said I was going to organize my posts by color and someone pointed out that the urls were still available.
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Asker Anonymous Asks:
Nobody is going to change the English language for people who don't LIKE the words "his" or "her" Do you really want those two words eradicated from the world? I guess we'll have to burn every book in the world if that's true then, huh? Let's stop teaching kids those two words too. But hey, as long as it makes more people more comfortable then sure! That's totally worth it! Face it, it's just stupid and impractical. Should we burn the book Romeo and Juliet since it contains "his" and "her"?
andthebluestblue andthebluestblue Said:

Honey you need to read the damn post

"His or her" is a different thing than "his" or "her"

I’d be less exasperated by all the people shrieking and clutching their pearls about the legitimacy of “his” and “her” if it weren’t /literally a post about grammar
maybe check the punctuation/

And on that note yes I’m going to go back and fix the formatting on this when I’m not on my phone





It turns out those horrifying looking lemon oreos are basically knock-offs of the old girl scout lemon cookies this changes everything

I am holding navalenigma responsible because he is the person I expect to give me cookie-related news, chosen more or less arbitrarily 

Asker girlhalved Asks:
Surely there has to better way to get your point across than butchering the English language?
andthebluestblue andthebluestblue Said:

1) I am fascinated as to what you think my point is here, because your accusation that I am “butchering the English language” indicates you have missed it. Tell me, are you also a strong proponent for the like/as difference, or is that change somehow acceptable, and this one isn’t?

2) I’m just going to go ahead and quote myself in a slightly mangled way here and repeat: 

"…the ‘trendy, ugly, distracting, and often unpronouncable’ construction of ‘s/he’ which is often used in essays discussing gender in Twelfth Night, but to avoid an oversimplification or erasure of identity (Garner 740). The use of singular ‘they’ is on the rise, primarily as a solution to generic masculine pronouns, and is expected to eventually replace it in cases where the gender of an individual is unknown or unspecified (Garner 179, 740). In this specific case—as in other cases involving individuals who fall outside of a binary gender identity—a kind of synesis occurs; meaning triumphs over grammar, and respect for a person’s identity is held to be more important than a grammatical rule (Garner 794)."

I wrote that specifically for an essay in which I was using “they” to refer to a particular character because I was writing about their gender in a specific way, so not all of my reasoning (I cut the beginning) applies, but my evidence sure as hell does. Garner’s expensive as balls (balls are expensive, trust me) so I know most people don’t own it; shoot me another message if you want screenshots of what I’m citing here, but I’m out right now and don’t have access to it.

3) I hope you know that there are people out there who are using “they” as their actual literal every day pronoun. Because as soon as your grammar starts being more important than someone crying in the bathtub because they can’t cut it in a binary system anymore, your grammar is broken and, frankly, so is your system of priorities. 

I have a feeling you will read this and think it’s an angrier reply than your question warrants! Which would be silly but, who knows, this is the internet and I have zero ability to read people’s intentions. But I’d like to save us both some time and surprise and say: yes! Yes I am angry about this. Part of that is because I have a lot of grammar feels (see what I did there). Part of it is because I have an enormous personal investment because, as mentioned, real live people use they, including my goddamn partner. Personal investment is not necessary to care about a thing! I care a LOT about subjective tense, and I don’t even know if it’s possible to have a personal investment in that (But if it were).

Grammar is a tool. When your tool wears out, or breaks, or you realize it’s the wrong tool for the task, you don’t spend the next ten years refusing to cut the wood in half because if it were the right kind of wood your tool would be working, so clearly that kind of wood just shouldn’t exist, and if it has to exist it shouldn’t be cut. You replace your damn handle and cut the wood.



stop saying “his or her”

use their

piss off prescriptivists
acknowledge nonbinary identities
make your sentences less clunky
advocate for common usage which is what leads to grammatical acceptance 

But also if someone prefers ‘her’ or ‘his’ then use those: communicate with people and find out their preferred pronouns :)

"His or her" is a separate construction from "’ his’ or ‘her’ "

"His or her" is generally used when referring to an unknown or generic person: "the student should return his or her permission slip" should be "the student should return their slip"




I just found THIS AMAZING WEBSITE called Trans Birth.  It is “a directory created to connect trans* and gender non-conforming people and their families to midwives, OBGYNs, and doulas who provide welcoming care to our communities.”

WHHHAAATTTT???  I’m sending them a blurb as we speak so that I can be listed on their directory.

Providers - sign up!!  It’s quick and easy.  Let’s make this an awesome resource for trans people!!

This is so cool and amazing!

(via shayvaalski)


Rae and baby! 

This photo is from February 8, and I’m due February 25!

Photo by Mo from Naked Eye Photography

(via shayvaalski)

"We’ve replaced Tom’s bacon in this BLT with sunflower seeds. Let’s see if he notices!"

I’m taking a mostly-bullshit nutrition class and this textbook is a piece of work

It just suggested replacing bacon with sunflower seeds



For breakfast tomorrow I will have an egg sandwich but instead of bacon
I will top it with sunflower seeds


say I want to be a famous author

but really I just want to be famous enough that they send me other author’s books to review so they can put it on the outside cover if it’s good

because I’m like 80% sure they must get those books for free and I want free books